He had struggled a bit with his health at the end and the final week was tough. There was talk of fear, how he was afraid to die. It is moments like this that make me wish I could have told him there was nothing to fear. I wish I could have told him it was ok to go.
You don't need to fight.
You don't need to struggle.
You've lived a great life.
Your family is grown, they are successful and safe. You did a good job.
You can go, they are fine.
It's time to be with your wife.
It's ok to go...
Bit it wasn't my place this time. I've done it in the past, for my uncle, for my grandmother. I've offered this advice to many others.
It's ok to go.
We are safe.
You've done well.
So many people facing the death of a loved one stay in their own fear. They become selfish and who can blame them. We don't want our loved ones to go. Their pain is done but ours is just beginning. Being selfish isn't a bad thing. We want what we want. A little more time with our mom or dad. A little more time with our spouse. You can't blame us for wanting that.
It takes A LOT of courage to give our loved one permission to go. One of the reasons I think they hang on is to make sure we are ok. We will be ok, it will take time but we will be ok.
Let your loved one know they did a great job. You are grown, healthy and well. You will miss them but its ok to go.
As I said earlier, a good man passed, his family was at his side. Fear was no longer a factor. There was peace, there was love. Its ok to go...